Accompanied by snippets and references from the introduction of the beautiful new book “The Essence Of Style; Seeing and Being Seen.” - Benjamin Sells, Spring Publications, 2022.

Seeing and Being Seen is about #coemergent psyche.

Style is an imaginal [very real] constant

that flows through all medium, all mannerisms, all complexities and simplicities - and it is totally co-created within the intra-psychic realm.


In my perspective, our strong and potent style, is Spirit.

The Rhythms of Style

also include what we would like to believe is not our style - everything swept under our psychic carpet - doh! - failures, compromises, secrets, annoying facts of life, the bloody truth.

Style Spirits are here to do all kinds of

alchemy

Style can either resonate or trigger us and other people (& both at the same time).

…how we move, how we look, how what we create enacts with the world… in who we are, in what dichotomy or paradox we live in and bring in.

Style repels & draws in.

Holding and being authentic to our own style is one of the hardest impossibilities - a spiral process - as the core inner artist of each of us strives to create what our authentic style actually is asking for.



Our limited idea of ourselves is rarely able to see our own style.

Style sets no boundary and the art of style is aliveness.

What does that even mean?

I will try to explain at least how I feel and innerstand it ->

The fabric of our very being is co-emergent in 4’s. 4 is a Magic Number.


1. OUR WORLD [EXTERNAL}

2. THE WORLD INSIDE OF US [INTERNA:L + MULTIPLE]

3. THE OTHER’S WORLD {EXTERNAL]

4. THE WORLD INSIDE OF THE OTHER [INTERNAL, MULTIPLE]

FOUR places where the Spirit of Style is flowing.

And as I understand it - the inside worlds connect around the other side, to something Objective.


That’s what I mean by #Intrapsychic.
It’s DEEP and the co-emergence is about understanding that it also exists outside of time.


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BROADENING PERSPECTIVES OUT OF THE ANTHROPOCENE:

Where Style repels is where we need to be careful.

In these times - We need to be really digging into why a Style is repelling us.

Is it warranted or is it cultural conditioning?

Seeing and Being Seen - by Objective Psyche, too - means we broaden our perspective about which part(s) / instincts /animal energies / spirits are driving us...

“Driving us?”

I go to this analogy because many of us dream with cars and we are not always driving them in our dreams. At a very banal and reductive interpretation this can be a relationship to our psyche and ego.

Who is the central character of psychic space?

"We" do not have central proximity as we would like to think we do.

Who is "we"?

Or better defined - Which inner instinct is defining the "we", at the moment?

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Self-Work:

~ Who is driving 'our car' in our dreams ~

~ Who else is in the car ~

~ Or are we the one in the backseat, yelling "Brake!" ~

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ANCESTRAL CURSES IN CHARGE:

Maybe there is are ancestral curses of lack, driving our ego-car?

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A little about "ancestral curses”.. which I will write more on later:

Our "Psychic Coloniser or The Extractivist" IS an ancestral curse in how I see it.

It is a curse onto the unconsciousness of our culture.

It is are a midi-recent curse - a shadow - we are all working on right now.

That energy likes to co-opt, it does not know of self-witnessing, and it usually will reject our own heart-labour and sell us off for cheap in a neat little package for easy digestion by an 'other’ who is also reduced, and calculated without soul… [lose-lose-lose]




That curse is still driving our collective car.

Many of us are stuck the back seat...

Psychic Coloniser or Extractivist is driving that car in a grand symphony of our Collective-Style...

The Collective Style we are in - is the era of Exctraction :
emotional immaturity [through living in emotional neglect and having to deny our own depth]
trauma-bonding through survival
and continued narcissitic avoidances of our own pain, attachments to personal gain and ego-identity rather than the agreed co-working towards altruism and giving.

And the struggle to get out of all that is REAL.
Noone is expected to be immune to that - I still struggle with all of it.





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 A FAULT LINE :

THE RETURN OF THE STYLE OF THE DARK GODDESS WITHIN ALL:

These #faultlines are all about #care #mothering #expansion and #holding spaces -> #womb and #witness.



THE MOTHER-WOUND FAULT LINE & THE FATHER-WOUND FAULT LINE - because its relational...


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None of us are immune to perpetuating our own versions of the #collectiveshadows, but we can stay in close contact with our own and keep levelling up from the old #curses - following new awareness, shaking off the old baggage that keeps us tied to old levels of consciousness, choosing suffering over accepting to be love, new #attunement, towards #joy and #freedom.




Learning about, appreciating and integrating our own Style - Especially for dissection-gaze woundings,








Where parts of style has been

reduced, boxed up or disallowed by external gaze

is so valuable.


FEEL INTO WHERE WE HIT INTO THE “TABOO”
OR THE “SQUISH”



+ Add some protection for collective curses - ie: become ok with diving eternally through the wound and build your tool kit for doing such...


Ancestral curses are what we are dealing with ALL THE TIME - they show themselves in the shadows, only when there is enough pull from the light, to pull them out of their hiding space in darkness and into shadows. 





When we start healing the area of gaze -
THROUGH INTEGRATION & COURAGE - WORK

We permit a new individuality to indwell in our bodies.

Seen & Being Seen Means 

To get ready to be the recipient of a HUGE incoming

STYLE BLOOM.🌺

Allowing individual style to dwell inside our bodies means it allows everyone around us to accept their own individual style. We promote sovereignty by allowing authentic style.

The Style Spirits run all the way from external world into stretching into the transpersonal. This is how the SKIN is connected to SOUL.


Style slides through all.

SKIN CARE - FROM THE INSIDE OUT:

Taking care of our SKIN, our Hair and our body adornment is very important for psychic soul health, in the way of STYLE.
 
Our Skin is our largest organ of the body and is put in one of the most important places between inner and outer worlds, holding parts of our idenity and becoming a melting place for how the world see’s us.

We take care of our Skin to take care and full ownership of our Style.

The best Skin care for me was both an internal [vitamins, minerals and oils] and external.

I did search a naturopath-doctor with hollistic and energetic inclinations, especially for this. [Not a regular dermatologist.]


With love and witness to our co-creative Spirits of Style ❤️

Sarah





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#style
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#collective
#relational
#seeingandbeingseen
#processual
#shamanic

#Skinhealth
#protection 
#empowerment