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Informing Oneself on the Venomous Head of Medusa
in the form of Projected Evils

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DEATH MOTHER COMPLEX

(Jungian Lens)

This article is a part of understanding how to protect oneself from a culture of misogynoir - I would say this video is dealing with misogyny (and not yet misogynoir‘)

Dr. Massimilla Harris

A fantastic resource from Dr Massimillia Harris and Bud Harris about the Complex of The Death Mother, from a Jungian Lens.


We need to be aware that this perspective of the Death Mother is discussing through a feminist, though western lens - the apathetic and subliminated Death Mother - as neglect, paralysis, melancholia, and as complex.

In this form it is a Shadow inherited, (as if it was a jacket), from an unlived power of a parent, or perhaps of both parents. This is as if a aliveness of the lineage has been avoided or disallowed, has putrified, and been onto future generations as jealousy, disgust, shame.

Most of us need to untie ourselves from this dysfuntion and monstrous tie-up of the death mother in western society, or impacted by patriachial, imperialism, or colonialism.


This video described in this practice, does not work from acknowleging lineage and the ancestral kinship model. It does not include Ritual as a collaboration with cultural spirit, nor the body of ritual herself, as Death Mother. 


Therefore, I see this video is a pre-cursor (in my constellations) to understanding the Death Mother as a ultimatley Life-giving, Trangressive Spirit - an initiator.


Bringing ‘the problem’ ‘the complex’ into consciousness, means to LOVE it.
To embrace it as part of us.

To love the Death Mother, is to embrace Her, to recognise her, and thus to recognise the sour and putrid within you, with respect.


An important article in relation to this is to Luisah Teich’s perspective on the Black Madonna & Africa (& Indigenous Western Australia) as Earth Mother.


How to work with this?

Recognise that we deny The Death aspects of Care and Nurturance within us. Stop making excuses for ‘when people did their best’, but still passed on their wounds, what does that feel like?
Stop making excuses for people who passed on the Death Mother in her unrecognised state, who bypassed their accountability and landed death onto you. 
Stop making excuses for being cursed.
Recognise the need to Please, outside of Authenticity.
Can you hold the feelings or move them through the body?

Recognising her will taste like ash in our mouth and holding her in the body will make you expand and start to understand self-respect and grace.
 
It will threaten relationship. Life or aliveness will wither. In oder to transform, this might need to be. We often attempt to excuse and sugar coat things in order to never come into contact with the Death Mother. This will not transform her, nor allow us access to our own power. We remain encaged, humiliating ourselves and staying small. Stop buffering or avoiding the truth of how close you have come to Death Mother. Instead allow her in to bring you rebirth.


Self Care is a Sacred undertaking.



* I do not agree with ‘killing the death mother’ as is stated in the end of this talk - I would agree with moving towards Odu, and understanding deeper into indigenous wisdom and our connection with Mother Earth.